How to become successful with women and your career
“When a person can’t find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure”
Viktor Frankl
Tom Leykis is known as a misogynist, but this one video is something I 100% agree with as he describes how men have to sacrifice a lot to reach success. I advise all men to watch the first 14 minutes of this video. That segment has changed my life completely and is extremely powerful. Now, lets get into this…
To be honest, I have thought about this topic for years at this point…specifically after breaking up with my last girlfriend. I am a person who goes out of their way to find solutions to things I don’t understand. From a culmination of personal experience, following self-improvement coaches, listening to the stories of high value men that I personally know (that I aspire to be), and simply living life I have learned something. This “something” is the fact that the modern-day man is expected to live up to such ridiculously high and unattainable standards. Also, modern day women have absolutely no clue what men must go through in this life to even be mediocre in today’s world. By the way I don’t blame women for this, I blame men for this predicament since masculinity is becoming rarer and rarer these days. These topics will most likely be broken into several topic due to length of which I would like to discuss this.
Here I will talk about both dating and becoming successful, because I wholeheartedly believe that these two are immensely intertwined with each since most men strive for success to become more attractive to the opposite sex. When I say successful I mean in every facet of your life from your wealth, health and your career. Here I will talk about my personal experience and why men need to focus on making their purpose the focus of their life and not dating when you are young.
My Personal Experience
I also met a lot of great mentors along the way and they are all successful men that I aspire to be in the future. They all mentioned that as a man you need to make your career/goals your focus and if you chase excellence everything else will eventually be chasing you. They also told me to avoid relationships and to focus on your career even into your mid-30s and to not cash in my chips before the getting gets good.
Royce King @ thedailynook.com
I have been told I look like an actor, in the middle of sex have been told numerous times that I am the most handsome man a-women has slept with and have never had issues having sexual partners. I wouldn’t say I was a Chad, but being 6’4, with black hair and blue eyes definitely has it’s perks. I am also from southern California and my experiences come from living in a popular city where there are beautiful women everywhere, so I believe what I have to say is valid in the realm of this topic
From the age of 21-23 I had a great time in college, but like a dumbass I decided to have a girlfriend for two years when I was 19-20 who cheated on me which brings me to my first lesson. RELATIONSHIPS IN COLLEGE ARE A WASTE OF TIME, IT IS BETTER SPENT PARTICIPATING IN SELF EXPLORATION AND FIGURING OUT WHO YOU ARE. Besides that, my experience in college was phenomenal as a young attractive man. My money/career was never a topic of discussion, beautiful women wanted to just have fun and sleep with you carelessly, and every weekend was amazing. One thing I did notice is that the 8-10/10 females often flocked to the top athletes and top house frat boys, this is due to the status and social proof these men have and this is something that will carry on for the rest of your life. As you get older these men are the successful doctors, NBA players, high power attorney’s, rich entrepreneurs, etc.
What I am more interested in talking about is post college when you start to build your wealth and life from scratch and the difference between the sexes. As I left college and started my first job, my access or ability to get the attention of beautiful girls in my age group was difficult or even impossible. When you go out to a bar/club you will notice that when approaching an attractive female, they will instantly vet you by asking you how old you are, what you do for a living, where you live, etc. This is essentially to get a gauge on your social status, your income/wealth, and the fact that women are generally more attracted to older men due to them usually checking off those boxes. Essentially just the income portion and your zip code will get you rejected, on the other hand if you are an attractive male, they might give you a chance of they just want to have fun, but that is rare. Out of the several 100 times I have been out to bars, I’ve had only a handful of one-night stands. This comes to my first lesson, going out with the intent to get laid is an absolute waste of time and money. Your time and money is better spent on self-improvement, like going to the gym. Most of your debauchery should have happened in high school/college age between the ages 16-22 and the rest of your 20s should be used to set the foundation for your 30s.
From getting out of college at 23 to being in my late 20s, I have been in one more relationship from 24-25 which went down in flames due mostly to red flags on her part that I chose to ignore. She was your typical platinum blonde, fake boob, pornstar-esque SoCal girl and it was a hell of a ride. But that relationship taught me a lot about myself and peaked my interest in human nature, relationship dynamics, men’s help, and self-improvement. That relationship was both the worst thing and the best thing that happened to me. The aftermath of that relationship pushed me to leave my five-year original career field and into different career field where I will be making a great living by the time I’m 30. I also met a lot of great mentors along the way and they are all successful men that I aspire to be in the future. They all mentioned that as a man you need to make your career/goals your focus and if you chase excellence everything else will eventually be chasing you. They also told me to avoid relationships and to focus on your career even into your mid-30s and to not cash in my chips before the getting gets good.
What you need to focus on as a man
This brings me to lesson 2, a man does not start living life until his 30s. A man typically does not have a solid financial standing until then. Health, wealth, and a great career is easily achievable if you focus on what matters in your 20s. Women will follow shortly after.
Royce King @ thedailynook.com
The first lesson noted above is extremely important, and I do not even think most men could even fathom how important it is. I am not saying to have a completely absent sex life, I of course didn’t, and it is pertinent to learn how to please a women and of to explore your sexual appetite. But the quality of women you will be able to sleep with, go on dates with, and spend time with if you focus on building your career, wealth, and fitness in your 20s will be extremely higher than if you did not. For example, those hot young girls in your age group fresh out of college rejecting your ass are dating the guys in their 30s that did just that. This brings me to lesson 2, a man does not start living life until his 30s. A man typically does not have a solid financial standing until then. Health, wealth, and a great career is easily achievable if you focus on what matters in your 20s. Most mediocre men in their 20s will settle for women due to the lack of options and what they will believe will allow for easier access to sex. Trust me when I say that sex will dry up once that woman will eventually understand you have nothing going on for you in terms of your career or wealth.
Right off the bat beautiful women have it made at the age of 18-29 while not even having to lift a finger. This brings me to lesson 3, as a man you literally must work for everything you have in your life. Absolutely nothing is given to you and if you fuck your 20s by either getting married, having kids, or not taking your career seriously you will find yourself in a hole you can’t dig yourself out of.
Royce King @thedailynook.com
You also need to understand, as a man, that a gorgeous woman is instantly born with privilege. If you live in southern California, as I did for 26 years, you will see it everywhere as I personally have. Once they are 18 they are essentially handed $2,000,000 dollars in chips which they can easily cash out in the form of a wealthy man where they can have it made for the rest of their life. Older men will also fly them out on fancy vacations to Tulum, yacht week in Croatia, Ibiza, all expense paid Coachella, and more. Next time you see a beautiful girl in one of those countries there is an old guy who is also there, obviously not pictured, funding it. Also, they will be able to enjoy the finest restaurants, $50,000 bottle service experiences in Vegas, and a lot more. From my experience they can essentially ride this wave until they are 30, then due to competition with younger women and their biological clock ticking the ride usually ends. I advise all the women I know to cash in on their youth with a successful man so they don’t find themselves in this predicament. The internet is filled with women discussing on reddit how they wasted their 20s essentially gambling their chips for a richer and richer man to eventually find themselves having an extremely hard time finding a high value man while in their 30s. Right off the bat beautiful women have it made at the age of 18-29 while not even having to lift a finger. This brings me to lesson 3, as a man you literally must work for everything you have in your life. Absolutely nothing is given to you and if you fuck your 20s by either getting married, having kids, or not taking your career seriously you will find yourself in a hole you can’t dig yourself out of.
Building your future is a lonely, and sometimes depressing, endeavor
This brings me to lesson 4, do not sell yourself short as a man. It might seem hard and lonely now, but you cannot see the future and what it will bring you while you are grinding in your 20s. You will eventually be that guy in his 30s who will find himself spending time with those 23-year-old hot woman who would not even bat an eye at you when you were 23. Even better, is if you are in your 30s and spent your time focusing on your health, wealth and career in your 20s they will be chasing you and not the other way around.
Royce King @ thedailynook.com
Before I end this let me embark you with one fantastic piece of knowledge. What trips up a lot of men is that in a world where short term gratification is poisonings everything, men cannot see past tomorrow and know how much better life is going to get. Time itself is a catalyst and it takes years, just like growing a tree, to see the fruits of your labor. As a man, if you settle in your 20s thinking that $20 dollar an hour job with your girlfriend from high school is the best it’s every going to get you are selling your self short. Too many men, that i know personally, have self-admitted to me that they wish they did not have kids and a wife so early. Because the friends they have that focused on their career and waited ended up being spoiled for choice while being able to experience so much more. This brings me to lesson 4, do not sell yourself short as a man. It might seem hard and lonely now, but you cannot see the future and what it will bring you while you are grinding in your 20s. You will eventually be that guy in his 30s who will find himself spending time with those 23-year-old girls who would not even bat an eye at you when you were 23. Even better, is if you are in your 30s and spent your time focusing on your health, wealth and career in your 20s they will be chasing you and not the other way around. This mindeset will also set you up for the rest of your life.
I hope you men that are reading this will take my advice seriously. I will end this with a quote that has greatly influenced my life……“When a person can’t find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure” – Viktor Frankl. I believe men need to make their goals, career, and purpose their focus and everything else will follow suit.
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