Should you date a Single Mom?

So, this advice applies to men with no kids, like me. You can also apply this if you are a man with kids, but since that isn’t my perspective, I will only be relating this article to the ladder/myself. Also, I am putting this in a perspective of a man that makes 6 figures and has his life together. First of all, if you aren’t making six figures or on the path of doing so, you need to get your money straight and neglect dating for 5-10 years, like I have, until you get your life together.

I’ll also wrote this article recently about why modern women play games when dating if you would like to check it out.

Let’s get into this

If you have spent some time on my website, you know that I only write about things that I have firsthand experience with. Single motherhood has been steadily increasing over the last two decades, with 80% of the 11 million single parent households being headed by single mothers. That’s around 8,765,000 single mothers that exist in today’s dating market. Click this link here to see additional stats.  By prefacing with that statistic, I guess you can understand what this article is about…..yes I gave dating a single mother a shot recently and would like to provide this experience to you.

Should you even bother dating a single mother?

So, I’m going to take this in a different direction. A lot of red-pill dudes say, absolutely not citing baggage, damaged goods….blah blah blah blah. I do believe its all dependent on what you are willing to put up with and if she is forever grateful that she has a high value man without remnants of his past, aka a child, giving her a shot. Here some other things you need to consider:

1. She needs to hold herself accountable. For Example, if she needs to cancel a date due to something with a child. She should act sweet, tell you exactly when she’s free to make it up to you, and she apologizes/offers an alternative. AKA: “I have to cancel for a school event, how about you come over later tonight because I still really want to see you”.
2. She can communicate. If she has a problem with something you said, is upset because of something that has nothing to do with you, or anything else, instead of leaving you in the dark she lets you know what up and helps you understand what’s going on and you two resolve it together.
3. She makes time for you. Having a kid can make her schedule unpredictable and hard, but if she really wants a future with you and has desire for you, no matter what she’ll make time for you. For example, the girl I dated would drive down to my work and buy my lunch or meet me at my house for some afternoon fun. She would also let me know I was free to sleep over any night during the week once her child was asleep. She would also make all of her free time available to me.
4. She has a good relationship with her family and her parents are still married. This one is huge.
5. Baby daddy drama. Does this affect the way she treats you, because if it does this is going to cause some serious issues. This has absolutely nothing to do with you, she should be comfortable with explaining the way she is acting depressed or upset, if this is the cause, and want to confide with you, help you understand if this is a constant issue, and make you feel comfortable.
6. Everything thing else that goes with dating a woman. Is she sweet, feminine, caring, communicative, sexually attracted to you, does she hold herself accountable….and most importantly does she have a high level of desire towards you.
7. Does she bring baggage and bad behaviors from past relationships. This just means she didn’t take the time to heal or seek therapy. I would argue that this right here is enough to walk away from a relationship.
8. This right here is the kicker, do you actually want to put up with never being her first priority. Because if she’s a good mom, she will put her kid first.
9. And finally. If she passes all the above you need to consider a couple of things; do you want to put in the energy, time and accept the fact that you will become a stepdad if it gets that far. Because to be honest, dating a single woman with no kids is much much much much…yeah you get it…easier then dating a single mother.

What happened with my situation

To be honest, I’m hitting 30 soon and I decided to date this girl because not only did she pursue me, but because she is a very nice girl, constantly made time for me and I really enjoyed dating her. Some of you would wonder……”Then why would you break up with her”. Because she sucked at communicating. Because of past relationships, she absolutely sucked at opening-up and if she was depressed, upset, or didn’t like something I said she would just be agreeable and wouldn’t tell me her thoughts on the particular subject. She would then proceed to ball herself up like an Armadillo for a couple of days and refuse to say anything. This refers directly to line two and seven above.

She wouldn’t open-up unless a cataclysmic event happened, AKA I would get to my wits end and tell her I’m on the verge of ending things because you won’t communicate with me. The thing that made me finally end it is after five days of telling her to call me because she wouldn’t communicate, she finally opened-up at 1 am in the morning over text; the issue was so miniscule and stupid that I lost my patience with her. I told her, hey let’s get on the phone because we can easily solve this. She kept arguing and I told her texting wasn’t productive and to just call me. She blew me off for three hours and I ended it after trying to give her a call. I essentially told her I wasn’t going to tolerate her behavior and held her accountable for the reason I was ending the relationship. Then funny enough, she had all the time in the world to communicate.

Yes, it is much easier to date women without children

Another thing. Guys, if you are busy, for example I manage 130 people, you do not have time to date somebody that makes your life difficult. I also take care of myself, treat girls I date extremely well, am in great shape, 6’4, have my own place, and make a great living. Why am I saying all this stuff? It’s because sometimes we forget our worth and the single mother I dated should have been forever grateful, as she obviously wasn’t, that I was willing to give her a chance.

Dating single women is infinitely easier because they come with an amazing amount of less baggage than a single mother. But if you happen to date and enjoy spending time with a woman who has a kid, the above things I listed should be a good starting point to vet whether she is even worth your time.

If you have any additional questions, you can email me at thedailynook@gmail.com or leave a comment below.